I recently bought this magnet for my refrigerator from Barnes and Nobel. When I read this it was as if someone had gotten into my head and wrote this for me. Now I have it on my refrigerator to keep reminding me that no matter how hard you crash, the real courage is in getting up and believing yourself.
In my previous posts I have been writing about how I was reducing my Depkene and doing fasting for the Holy month. At the start of the month I thought I would not be able to fast. However, upon consulting with my doctor, it turned out there was no harm in trying as most of my medications were during the night. Oh boy was I wrong!
On Thursday, I woke up at 9:00 am to start my day. I was feeling not particularly elated or depressed. I had a good night sleep in a long time. I made my son breakfast and said good bye to my husband. Then I resumed my regular activities. At around 10:30, my son takes a nap. So I took him upstairs for his nap. He initially start to drift off but eventually decided to not sleep. It is not a big thing if u see it in retrospect but I was furious. It was like someone has ignited a fire inside me. In order to not harm my baby, I decided to play with him.
So, I begin to teach him how to walk with a walker I recently bought him. I don’t know why he is scared of it. Upon trying 3-4 times, he started to get irritated and was not willing to learn. Till today I have no idea what went so wrong inside my head, I shouted at the poor thing so hard that he began to cry loudly.
I went to my couch, sat over there, red in fury. My brain was exploding with all sorts of thought. I started thinking that we had made a mistake giving birth to this baby. I was thinking I should have stayed back home where things are easy and we get maids to do all our work for us. Suddenly (TRIGGER ALERT!) I thought maybe all of this would be solved if I was not here. I started imaging hitting myself with a knife and how my death would solve all of the problems. I went to kitchen and took a chef’s kinfe and place my palm around it. But I couldn’t. No matter how much I wanted to I couldn’t do it.
I started crying hard. I started dialing my husband’s number. One time, two times, three times and then what felt like a million times and no reply! I decided to call my doctor. I talked to the nurse and told her I was suicidal and was thinking of harming the baby. She told me to stay calm and promise not to hurt myself and my baby and also to get hold of my husband. She will call me back once the doctor comes back from his lunch break.
I started dialing again and again but no reply. It was like he wasn’t going to pick up ever. As soon as I started dialing his office number I got his call. I picked up and started crying and wailing and telling him to come home ASAP cz I don’t wanna do the things I am thinking about.
Fifteen minutes passed and the poor thing was home. I saw him and started crying uncontrollably. Telling him what happened and how bad I was for thinking and doing all of this but I did not know what to do or who to tell. He hugged me hard and told me it was all ok. I did not do anything wrong and infact I did the right thing by calling him and the doctor.
So he asked me to get dressed and get out of the home. He took me to dunkin donuts, for a lunch and coffee. During the way I was getting more and more calm and he was talking to me and I was crying and doing some talking. I was so disoriented I did not know which way was which.
My doctor called when he was back and told me to immediately take one Depkene and switched it back to 500 mgs. Also my effexor was switched to 100 mg back instead of the new 75 mgs.
Turns out fasting along with a medication change is a bad combination. I was fasting and was withdrawing certain amount of medicines. What I was most scared of was going to the ER. Thanks to my husband in time arrival, that was not needed. I did not go home for some hours then. He did not let me drive or anything but was taking me any place I would ask.
I came back home awfully tired. It was like my brain was sore and exhausted. I did not work all day. All I did was sitting around and watch TV. I was in pain from the events that had happened all day. I was shocked and disappointed.
I worked so hard for my treatment. I had no idea something so simple can cause such a big relapse. I was not this suicidal even when I was un treated for the disease. I think this is how life is. This is what I learnt. Courage is not about doing a struggle one time. It is about falling and getting up and keep getting up despite the fall.
I crashed hard, too hard. I have no idea if I will recover but I am determined. I had no idea this would happen and like this! I love my son, I love my life. I don’t know what went wrong. It was just a bad combination of not eating and medicine change. Anyways I am not fasting any more. M trying to take it slow and trying to get back on the horse.
Hope everything will be back to normal.